If you’ve survived difficult relationships or trauma and keep ending up with people you have to “fix,” this video is for you.
In this teaching, Dr Tony Weston shares how to shift from choosing projects to choosing partners, using the Lifelong Capacities Map® to understand what’s really happening beneath chemistry and attraction.
You’ll explore key psychological skills involved in healthy partner choice:
4.4 Secure Relational Boundaries – saying no to rescuing while staying open to connection.
3.4 Healthy Self-Worth – remembering you deserve equal, nourishing love, not conditional approval.
6.1 Impulse Control – slowing down attraction so you can see red flags clearly before committing.
9.1 Accurate Reality Appraisal – seeing who someone is now, not just who they might become.
You’ll also learn a simple “date debrief checklist” and hear a real case example of how strengthening these skills transformed one client’s relationship pattern from chaos to calm partnership.