Start here: People Pleasing Pathway (free teaching video) → https://psychevita.com/collection/13961
Guided practice access requires PsycheVita membership.
People pleasing isn’t just “being nice”.
Often, it’s the fawn response — appeasing to stay safe. If you struggle to say no, feel responsible for other people’s emotions, or apologise too much, it may not be your personality. It may be a protective procedure your nervous system learned early: If I keep you happy… I stay safe.
In this video, I share the story behind a childhood photo — and how it reveals what people pleasing really is, where it comes from, and how to start breaking free.
The 3 core skills this pathway trains (via guided practices):
• 8.2 Somatic Attunement
• 1.2 Adaptive Emotional Processing
• 6.1 Impulse Control (building “small no’s”)
If you only do one thing today: Practise the PsycheScriptions once (2–4 mins), then stop. These are trainable skills — not through harsh confrontation or sudden personality change, but through daily micro-practice that gradually teaches the nervous system:I can stay connected… without self-abandoning. Membership: £10/month or £100/year (cancel any time). App stores may display different pricing depending on region/settings.
Timestamp:
00:00 Intro
00:49 What is people pleasing and why do we do this?
01:13 Common signs of people pleasing
01:26 Layla's Story
01:45 The link between people pleasing and complex trauma
02:19 Physical consequences of hypoarousal over the long term
02:44 The origins of people pleasing
03:58 The cost of people pleasing
05:45 Conclusion
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