How to choose between therapy, coaching, or mentoring using a clear developmental roadmap.
Not every practitioner is right for every person – and that’s actually good news. In this video, Dr Tony Weston explains how to choose between therapy, coaching, mentorship, or supervision in a way that fits your current stage of growth, not just the labels on someone’s website. Drawing on Chapter 24 of Transform Your Life and the Lifelong Capacities Map®, he shows how the process of choosing a practitioner is itself part of your developmental journey. You’ll see how this decision links to key capacities and competencies, including: • 4.1 Empathic Attunement – sensing which practitioner really “gets” you • 4.2 Relational Repair & Conflict Navigation – choosing someone who can repair ruptures, not just cause them • 7.2 Intrinsic Motivation – owning your reasons for seeking help, rather than outsourcing them • 10.3 Adaptive Self-Monitoring – noticing how you respond in consultations and early sessions • 10.4 Reflective Decision Making – weighing therapy vs coaching with clarity instead of panic • 11.x Ethical–Moral Capacity – recognising integrity, boundaries, and values in the people you work with Alongside the video, you’ll find a free companion worksheet to help you: • Clarify what you’re longing for help with right now • Map those needs onto specific capacities and competencies • Prepare better questions for consultations so you can sense fit quickly and kindly By the end, you’ll be better equipped to find the right guide for this season of your life, rather than the “perfect” practitioner in the abstract.
